6 Tips for Little Ones at Holy Mass
“Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” (Matthew 19:14)
As a young mother of a growing family, Mass is both a haven and a challenge. If I’m lucky, my 1-year-old will sleep through the majority of the liturgy in the arms of my husband, and we can all enjoy receiving the sacrament. Other days, we are constantly going back and forth from the back of the church to our pew. I look at other families and wonder how we will ever grow away from this stage and whether we are doing everything in our power to teach our young ones how to behave during our most important practice. While we do not want to punish them for being children, we do want to discipline them for naughtiness and set age-appropriate expectations.
On a mission to prepare our family for success, I sought answers. While every family is different, we received many recurring tips from other families about promoting appropriate behavior during Mass that may help your family, too.
1. Sit Up Front. Although this arrangement may mean a longer walk to the back of the church in the case of a tantrum, children can engage so much more if they see more than their fellow parishioners’ backs.
Encourage dialogue after Mass. Talk about the homily and readings, why the priest wore a special color, etc.
3. Promote Participation. Attend daily Mass if you are able. This practice provides children the “practice” they need to prepare them for the longer Sunday Masses.
Having a “job” at Mass gives little ones a feeling of accomplishment and maturity. This responsibility can be as simple as putting the money into the collection basket, [AS1] finding the correct page in the missal, or lighting (with help, of course) a candle to pray for deceased family members or for their own intentions.
4. Prepare as Much as Possible. If you start your day off in an angry hustle to get to the church on time, your time spent at Mass will have a much rougher start. If you start strong, you’re more likely to finish strong!
Lay out clothes the night before, pack diaper bags beforehand, and have breakfast in time.
Practice Mass skills at home or before/after Mass. You can practice genuflecting, making the Sign of the Cross and singing some of the more common, simple Mass songs around the house.
6. Celebrate Sundays. You may want to consider bringing along “Mass bags” with soft toys and age-appropriate Mass or Bible books. These may be used respectfully while not detracting from the sacrament. Having something “special” to look at for young ones can be an exciting part of their Sunday.
Dress to impress! We want our children to understand that where we are going and what we are doing is special, which our clothing can communicate.
COVID Expectations: Virtual Mass
- Make virtual Mass reverent. Prepare a “holy space” in your home with holy cards, statues and candles. Continue performing the motions of the Mass (sit, stand, kneel).
- Dress in your Sunday best.
- Give children the opportunity to participate by blowing out candles or by arranging holy figures and sacred art, etc.
- When you return to in-person Mass, be prepared for another learning period. Be patient with the learning curve.
I hope these tips will help all of us teach our children the importance of Mass while respecting the sacrament. As our children grow and gain younger siblings, the hard work we are doing now will allow our older children to be instrumental examples to the younger children. In the meantime, we can ask for the grace from God to endure the more trying times of the teaching process. With healthy instruction and reassurance, our children will come to respect the Mass as much as we do.